The Chemistry Check · 2 minutes
You fell into autopilot. Here's the way back to each other.
Find out what's happening to the three systems behind your relationship: the Spark, the Glue and the Brake. Then get your first ten-minute move for tonight.
- ✦8 quick questions
- ✦Your couple's chemistry map
- ✦One move you can try tonight
9:47 p.m.
Same couch. Different continents.
One of you is watching a stranger renovate a bathroom. The other is answering an email that could have waited. You love each other. You just stopped feeling like a couple. The quiz tells you which of three systems went quiet first.
Three systems run your evenings
The Spark · dopamine
Lives on new things and anticipation.
The Glue · oxytocin
Built by touch and trust.
The Brake · cortisol
Pressed by stress and mental load.
Some numbers worth knowing
Average marriage length of couples whose brains still lit up like new lovers in a 2012 scanner study.
Americans married 10+ years who said they were still “very intensely in love.”
The hug length used in a study that softened stress responses. The average hug lasts about 3.